Tired, so tired.
Not sure what brought on this mood, but lately my patience has been running on empty. I am so tired, tired of people in general. I try to find the good, the positive in everyone I meet. But what can I do? How do I ignore my first impression, my gut reaction? I try, I really do. I constantly doubt it, give everyone the benefit to prove me wrong. But 97% of the time it just plays out exactly like I knew it would. It gives me no pleasure to be sure. I crave the rare moments when someone surprises me with their sincerity, integrity, honesty and humour.
I don't even know where to start. How to fully express what it is that is making me so fatigued with humans and their social interaction. Or their pretense at said "interaction".
Well, here's hoping the mood passes soon.
Peace, let's give it a chance.
I mean really, strictly from a logical perspective, we've tried everything else imaginable. Everything that is negative, destructive, counter-productive, wasteful, counter-intuitive to most of us. Yet, we don't go for the the simplest, most obvious answer, peace.
Again, thinking about it logically, from a "household" perspective, you, your significant other, perhaps a child or children, perhaps a pet(s), even plants if you have 'em. When you are in harmony with all of the above and are in harmony with your neighbours, are you not better able to think and function? To say nothing of happiness, joy or all other positive emotions. Just on the simplest level, you can function in your everyday life more efficiently.
If you live in a constant state of chaos, disharmony and conflict, you wouldn't get anything done. You'd be sleep deprived, financially strapped, bloody and stressed out. Right, so you strive for balance and harmony within your own little world. So, let's expand on that shall we? Now let's spread this to our neighbouring provinces/states and environs. "Oh how lovely to take this drive on a sunny Sunday afternoon to County X". Not bad, now we're getting the idea. Let's continue on across the border to the east, followed by the west, north and south. "Isn't that grand? Travelling through the airport like a worthwhile human being, with just my passport and luggage. No need to search me or stress me out with silly rules, because no one is here to do harm to anyone else."
Sounds a tad far fetched? Idealistic? Perhaps, given the current state of affairs, but there is no logical reason why it can't be as such. Like John says in "Imagine", "you may say I'm a dreamer, but I'm not the only one." No John, you weren't and still aren't the only one. There are lots of us who simply can't see the point of all the wars, hunger, depravity and general human suffering. Perhaps it is because we can't stomach the thought of profiting off of the misery of others. Perhaps we're just naive and idealist, or just perhaps, we're just a little bit further ahead on the curve. We've perhaps seen in our minds what CAN be and find it difficult to let go of that ideal.
What does give me hope though is that the numbers of those that are starting to turn the corner in their own human evolution, is rapidly growing. When this number reaches "critical mass", it will indeed be the dawning of a new age in human development.
As for the video below, I think it speaks volumes in it's simplicity and message. I think it's interesting that of all the places John and Yoko could have picked to hold their "love in" was a hotel room in Montreal, Canada. Yeah, I am proud of what my country stands for. Take it away John and Yoko and a bunch of half naked hippies! :D
Again, thinking about it logically, from a "household" perspective, you, your significant other, perhaps a child or children, perhaps a pet(s), even plants if you have 'em. When you are in harmony with all of the above and are in harmony with your neighbours, are you not better able to think and function? To say nothing of happiness, joy or all other positive emotions. Just on the simplest level, you can function in your everyday life more efficiently.
If you live in a constant state of chaos, disharmony and conflict, you wouldn't get anything done. You'd be sleep deprived, financially strapped, bloody and stressed out. Right, so you strive for balance and harmony within your own little world. So, let's expand on that shall we? Now let's spread this to our neighbouring provinces/states and environs. "Oh how lovely to take this drive on a sunny Sunday afternoon to County X". Not bad, now we're getting the idea. Let's continue on across the border to the east, followed by the west, north and south. "Isn't that grand? Travelling through the airport like a worthwhile human being, with just my passport and luggage. No need to search me or stress me out with silly rules, because no one is here to do harm to anyone else."
Sounds a tad far fetched? Idealistic? Perhaps, given the current state of affairs, but there is no logical reason why it can't be as such. Like John says in "Imagine", "you may say I'm a dreamer, but I'm not the only one." No John, you weren't and still aren't the only one. There are lots of us who simply can't see the point of all the wars, hunger, depravity and general human suffering. Perhaps it is because we can't stomach the thought of profiting off of the misery of others. Perhaps we're just naive and idealist, or just perhaps, we're just a little bit further ahead on the curve. We've perhaps seen in our minds what CAN be and find it difficult to let go of that ideal.
What does give me hope though is that the numbers of those that are starting to turn the corner in their own human evolution, is rapidly growing. When this number reaches "critical mass", it will indeed be the dawning of a new age in human development.
As for the video below, I think it speaks volumes in it's simplicity and message. I think it's interesting that of all the places John and Yoko could have picked to hold their "love in" was a hotel room in Montreal, Canada. Yeah, I am proud of what my country stands for. Take it away John and Yoko and a bunch of half naked hippies! :D
2010 Handbook
Health:
1. Drink plenty of water.
2. Eat breakfast like a king, lunch like a prince and dinner like a beggar.
3. Eat more foods that grow on trees and plants and eat less food that is manufactured in plants..
4. Live with the 3 E's -- Energy, Enthusiasm and Empathy
5. Make time to pray.
6. Play more games
7. Read more books than you did in 2009 .
8. Sit in silence for at least 10 minutes each day
9. Sleep for 7 hours.
10. Take a 10-30 minute walk daily. And while you walk, smile.
Personality:
11. Don't compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
12. Don't have negative thoughts or things you cannot control. Instead invest your energy in the positive present moment.
13. Don't over do. Keep your limits.
14. Don't take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
15. Don't waste your precious energy on gossip.
16. Dream more while you are awake
17. Envy is a waste of time You already have all you need..
18. Forget issues of the past. Don't remind your partner with His/her mistakes of the past. That will ruin your present happiness.
19. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone. Don't hate others.
20. Make peace with your past so it won't spoil the present.
21. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
22. Realize that life is a school and you are here to learn. Problems are simply part of the curriculum that appear and fade away like algebra class but the lessons you learn will last a lifetime.
23. Smile and laugh more.
24. You don't have to win every argument. Agree to disagree...
Society:
25. Call your family often.
26. Each day give something good to others.
27. Forgive everyone for everything..
28. Spend time w/ people over the age of 70 & under the age of 6.
29. Try to make at least three people smile each day
30. What other people think of you is none of your business.
31. Your job won't take care of you when you are sick Your friends will. Stay in touch. Life:
32. Do the right thing!
33. Get rid of anything that isn't useful, beautiful or joyful.
34. GOD heals everything.
35. However good or bad a situation is, it will change..
36. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
37. The best is yet to come..
38. When you awake alive in the morning, thank GOD for it.
39. Your Inner most is always happy. So, be happy.
New year brings new adventures
One just never knows what fun and excitement life has in store. Been doing some more bonding with my Imzadi and it turns out my big strong manly man, wants to be mine. I mean totally, submissive, all mine. He wants me to be his hypnodomme. (Hope that doesn't include a great deal of high heel wearing). But all kiddin' aside, he just never stops amazing me with the new and exciting ways he just pushes all the right buttons.
So, we've decided that we're going to start off with something simple, some "vanilla hypnosis" just to get us more familiar with the process and improve my technique, of which I really have none, since this is all new to me.
The short term goal is to control his erection and ejaculation with a trigger word. How delish is that? ;) Having my young hottie totally under my supreme control, makes me all gummy inside already, can't wait.
But as in all new things in life, one must prepare and perform their due diligence. So I have been doing some research on the overall area of hypnosis, and the more esoteric sexual aspects. A great deal of it really amuses me, only because of the "hypno for fee", just making a buck any which way I guess. But, that is neither here nor there I suppose, because this is about us and our evolving into true Imzadi. Bonding in ways that most couples wouldn't dare explore, and doing it with our hearts and eyes wide open, and in trusting each other, free ourselves from our limiting chains.
I am so excited to start, it's the most daring thing I have done in a long time. Guess I am taking this rather seriously, but it's just a huge turn on for me to have someone basically submit in such a grand scale.
Happy New Year - 2010
Another year behind me, another year full of promise and opportunity.
First for the old stuff. Well, it's over and done with. What is done, is indeed, done. Nothing I can do about it now.
Looking forward for the first time in a very very long time. Mostly I believe it is because I finally found someone I can believe in. Someone that loves me and doesn't just pay lip service to that, but actually shows me, and most especially, shows me in the ways that matter most to me. Because that's just who he is. A kind, considerate, sweetheart and loves me for me and despite all my faults and shortcomings. I have nothing to offer him but myself, and he asks for nothing but my love and attention. Because he knows I detest obligatory presents, especially where associated with a certain date on the calendar (birthdays, Christmas, etc.) he asked me what I wanted for Christmas and I told him "you". So, you know what he did? He set a day we both had off aside to treat my inner Princess. He spent the day indulging me. Gave me a pedicure, took me to dinner, took me shopping, we cuddled for hours, and generally made me feel wonderful. Now, I ask you, what price could one put on that? Not to forget to also give him kudos because he understands the simple concept of "treat me kindly all year round and spare me the expensive gifts in lieu". I don't care for diamonds (hate to think someone might have lost an arm so I can have a shiny thing), or flowers (they die) or chocolates (well, maybe if they are Godiva chocolates ;), but you get the idea. His love is priceless and worth more than all the oil left in the Gulf.
So, 2010 brings with it many new important changes. My Imzadi is moving in with me (officially) in February. We are hoping that I might have one good egg left in me and with lots of loving, we can start our family. Now there is a notion I never thought I would have. I mean kids are great, I love them, especially when they are someone else's, but I never had this overwhelming urge to do any of the traditional stuff, i.e. marriage, kids, mortgage, etc. Guess it was a matter of finding the right person, finding my Imzadi. Now I find myself day dreaming about what might be. And let's be honest, "trying" to make a family is sure a fun process. ;)
To those people who came before him, you know who you are (Frankiie, Zhenya, James) all I can say is, "you had the same fair chance everyone else did, including my soul mate, but you chose to not treat me well". It wasn't circumstances or misunderstandings or miscommunication, or anything other than your complete and utter disregard for me and my needs, wants and feelings. And time after time you opted to treat me with no regard or consideration, but still have the balls to IM or email me "I want another chance". That's all you know how to do, is take. "I want, I want." What about what I wanted or needed? No thanks, you have proven yourself and you have nothing worthy to offer me. Please delete me from your contacts, I will simply ignore you going forward (the IM ignore list is ever expanding), because time is precious and I will not waste another single second on those that don't deserve my love, kindness and attention.
To my new friends, you know who you are (Kim, Pip, Tiff) I just want you know how much you are cherished and appreciated. I look forward to many more great times together in 2010 and going forward.
To my soulmate, agori mou, I adore you. To use an overused movie line, but the only words that really describe how I feel when we are together "You complete me". I miss you when you are out of sight and I often have to fight the urge to call you up just to hear your voice. You made me hope again and have faith in people and romantic relationships. I look forward to all the amazing things we will do together in 2010 as well as the rest of my life.
All the best to everyone in the coming new year!!
4 Secrets to a Spectacular Relationship
What do couples who describe their relationship as spectacular do differently than those who describe theirs as simply so-so? The differences are quite small, actually.
"When we look at happy couples, we see that great partnerships are not the result of hours of hard work," says relationship researcher Terri L. Orbuch, Ph.D., who followed 373 couples for over 22 years as part of a marriage study funded by the National Institutes of Health. "It's small changes in behavior and attitude that can transform your relationship." In her new book, "5 Simple Steps to Take Your Marriage from Good to Great," Orbuch shares the steps you can take to a spectacular relationship.
"When we look at happy couples, we see that great partnerships are not the result of hours of hard work," says relationship researcher Terri L. Orbuch, Ph.D., who followed 373 couples for over 22 years as part of a marriage study funded by the National Institutes of Health. "It's small changes in behavior and attitude that can transform your relationship." In her new book, "5 Simple Steps to Take Your Marriage from Good to Great," Orbuch shares the steps you can take to a spectacular relationship.
#1. Understand Each Other's Needs
"The main reason marriages break up is not conflict, communication problems, or physical incompatibility," Orbuch says. "It's frustration -- the day-to-day disappointment of the gap between what you expect and how your partner acts -- that is most damaging." To diffuse that frustration, share your expectations with each other. Maybe you desire more affection and he craves more relaxed couple time. "And be sure to check in with your partner once a year, as added pressures or life changes can create new expectations," Orbuch says.
"The main reason marriages break up is not conflict, communication problems, or physical incompatibility," Orbuch says. "It's frustration -- the day-to-day disappointment of the gap between what you expect and how your partner acts -- that is most damaging." To diffuse that frustration, share your expectations with each other. Maybe you desire more affection and he craves more relaxed couple time. "And be sure to check in with your partner once a year, as added pressures or life changes can create new expectations," Orbuch says.
#2. Show Him Some Love
Men whose partners give them affirmation -- those words and gestures that show they are appreciated, respected, and loved -- are twice as likely to describe themselves as happy in their relationship. And men may need affirmation more than women, Orbuch's research showed. "Women are constantly receiving flattery from friends and even strangers who say, 'Love your outfit!'" she says. "But men don't get that recognition." Can you imagine a passerby stopping your guy to compliment him on how well his tie matches his shirt? Not gonna happen -- which is why men rely on that attention from their mates. Luckily, there's another payoff to your flattery: He's more likely to return those loving deeds back to you.
Men whose partners give them affirmation -- those words and gestures that show they are appreciated, respected, and loved -- are twice as likely to describe themselves as happy in their relationship. And men may need affirmation more than women, Orbuch's research showed. "Women are constantly receiving flattery from friends and even strangers who say, 'Love your outfit!'" she says. "But men don't get that recognition." Can you imagine a passerby stopping your guy to compliment him on how well his tie matches his shirt? Not gonna happen -- which is why men rely on that attention from their mates. Luckily, there's another payoff to your flattery: He's more likely to return those loving deeds back to you.
#3. Take 10
A weekly date night is always recommended as a way to reconnect, but sometimes all you need is a few minutes. "I call this the 10-Minute Rule: Take 10 minutes a day to talk about anything, except for responsibilities or chores," Orbuch says. Throw out Mom's old advice about how an air of mystery keeps the flame alive: Orbuch's research showed that 98 percent of happy couples say they intimately understand their partners.
And knowing your partner intimately isn't always about engaging in heavy conversations: Anything that helps you learn something new will bring you closer, Orbuch says. You can bond over why you think your dog is the smartest one on the block or which superpower you'd want most. You'll get to know each other's inner world and strengthen your bond of happiness.
A weekly date night is always recommended as a way to reconnect, but sometimes all you need is a few minutes. "I call this the 10-Minute Rule: Take 10 minutes a day to talk about anything, except for responsibilities or chores," Orbuch says. Throw out Mom's old advice about how an air of mystery keeps the flame alive: Orbuch's research showed that 98 percent of happy couples say they intimately understand their partners.
And knowing your partner intimately isn't always about engaging in heavy conversations: Anything that helps you learn something new will bring you closer, Orbuch says. You can bond over why you think your dog is the smartest one on the block or which superpower you'd want most. You'll get to know each other's inner world and strengthen your bond of happiness.
#4. Focus on the Good
The best way to make your relationship better is to work at fixing what's wrong, right? Nope. "The most effective way to boost fun and passion is to add positive elements to your marriage," Orbuch says. "That positive energy makes us feel good and motivates us to keep going in that direction."
This doesn't mean that you can't feel -- or talk about -- anything negative, but "pretend you are weighing your interactions on a scale," she says. "If you want a happier relationship, the positive side needs to far outweigh the bad." The more you honor the love and joy in your bond, the sooner you'll transform your partnership into one that is truly great.
The best way to make your relationship better is to work at fixing what's wrong, right? Nope. "The most effective way to boost fun and passion is to add positive elements to your marriage," Orbuch says. "That positive energy makes us feel good and motivates us to keep going in that direction."
This doesn't mean that you can't feel -- or talk about -- anything negative, but "pretend you are weighing your interactions on a scale," she says. "If you want a happier relationship, the positive side needs to far outweigh the bad." The more you honor the love and joy in your bond, the sooner you'll transform your partnership into one that is truly great.
What are your thoughts? Have you been in such a relationship? Do you think it's really possible?
Found what I didn't even know I was looking for.
Who knew? I sure didn't. I just kind of snuck up on me, these feelings, this.....completeness. Not sure what all the worry, fuss and stress was about early on, maybe just insecurities rearing their ugly heads. Seems that the one-of-a-kind-type of guy you read about in those silly romance novels and hollywood movie scripts, does really exist. Don't let the girly-like giggles fool you though, it was a rough and often lonely road to get to here. Won't even get into the age thing, it's just too depressing, but let's just say that "dues have been duly paid". And now it's time to let go of the old insecure worries and enjoy the benefits of being in a loving relationship with another human being that "gets me". Truly can be characterized as "a unicorn". Funny isn't it? How often we have a gender associated with "animals" even ones of fantasy or lore. But for whatever stupid reason, I had always envisioned the "unicorn" as a female. hhmmm, will have to look that up in the psych literature. :P
There is a term in another fictional realm, the Betazedoids call it "Imzadi" and when you look it up in Wikipedia you find this explanation, which is as good as any I could come up with.
It would appear that I have found my Imzadi (or did he find me?)
Real Life, nothing beats it!
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With all the techno-toys, gadgets and widgets, it's a little wonder that younger generations have little to no social skills. I don't know how many times a week, some random person will contact me on Yahoo! IM (have no idea how they find me, my privacy settings are rather closed) and try to chat me up. More often than not, it's the same conversation, asking me my stats, etc. nothing interesting to offer, most especially from the males. Just some free advise, online only friendships are booooooooring. When you can just "click" and leave a conversation, when you don't have to "deal", it's not real.
Nothing beats real life experiences, most certainly not online chat.
YouTube Dreamworx channel
Not sure why blogger lost the ability to embed video, but you can find Buddy Christ and much more on the Dreamworx YouTube channel.
All lousy things must come to an end.
Oohhhh noooo, whatever shall I do without "Friends Without Boundaries" and the other useless groups the gruesome threesome operate on MeetUp? Yes dear reader, guess TJ just couldn't take it as well as he can dish it out, wasn't into "keeping it real" when they are the ones in the hotseat and they gave me the boot.
LMAO, I can't help it, it's just too damn funny. The groups are shrinking as I type and the only ones left are the inert ones and the desperate single males.
Oh well, all lousy things must come to an end.
LMAO, I can't help it, it's just too damn funny. The groups are shrinking as I type and the only ones left are the inert ones and the desperate single males.
Oh well, all lousy things must come to an end.
**Update to "You just can't buy class entry" **
Wanted to make sure to get this copied and pasted before she deleted it. Wish someone would come along and prove me wrong, but it doesn't look like its going to be this time around. I should mention that the numbers of the group have now dwindled down to 219 from 226.
Who needs cable eh? ;)
"52 couples (which strangely includes females) and about 22 all female couples (that would certainly be a needed necessity for the "all girl" play room and over 100 SINGLE FEMALES"
Haha, what a lie. There were like 15 guys and 2 women there. This was obviously just a cash-grab. No wonder your response was so defensive.
Whatever. I was curious. Turns out, swingers clubs are just what I expected - 90% men, mostly creepy and old.
Enjoy the $30 you got from me Victoria. Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me.
Edited by User 7,915,871 on Oct 30, 2009 8:24 AM
Who needs cable eh? ;)
"52 couples (which strangely includes females) and about 22 all female couples (that would certainly be a needed necessity for the "all girl" play room and over 100 SINGLE FEMALES"
Haha, what a lie. There were like 15 guys and 2 women there. This was obviously just a cash-grab. No wonder your response was so defensive.
Whatever. I was curious. Turns out, swingers clubs are just what I expected - 90% men, mostly creepy and old.
Enjoy the $30 you got from me Victoria. Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me.
Edited by User 7,915,871 on Oct 30, 2009 8:24 AM
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