First a bit of the backstory to get you caught up. (Promise, this is the short version)
A year or so ago, I joined a Cuddle group on the meet up site, and was looking forward to something similar to the Cuddle Parties I had seen on YouTube. What I soon discovered was that the creation of this group was merely a luring device employed by the organizer to give himself a wide variety of women to hit up for some 1-on-1 "cuddling". The irony to this whole thing is that the typical gender make up of these types of groups is about a dozen guys for every female. So, I wasn't exactly flattered by the email asking me if I'd be interested in meeting privately. Soon thereafter the group organizer abandoned that tactic as well as the group.
Some time later another cuddling group was started, this one by a m/f couple, so I thought it would be more genuine then the single dude looking to score. How naive of me. Again, the same thing. Gender make up primarily male and the male organizer would only create events that permitted only one other participant. Not long after the male of the couple emailed me asking if I'd like to cuddle 1-on-1. When asked "what about the female partner?" was told that she was "shy" and so on. I declined and left the group.
So, time passes, I have my cuddling needs met, firstly by my boy toy and secondly by the cuddle group I started and host on Facebook. But am still a member of a group or two on Meet Up and when I received the following notice, I thought it rather funny and totally ignored it.
We saw your post and thought you'd be a perfect fit for the new group that we just started (The exotic erotic sexual fantasies and lifestyles meetup)...We're pretty much hand picking all of the members..Please check us out when you get a chance and let us know what you think.. xxx
TJ, Shannon and Vicky
But I did check out their profile and being brought up with tact and class, I kept what I thought of them to myself (no face pics, just some teasing body shots. You know what that means, "butta face"). Also there was no option to reply to them directly - they had blocked their email.
Again, time goes by, and one of my cuddle friends is still in the cuddle group and so when I saw that the "average couple" had stepped down as organizers and there were new ones in charge, I once again began to hope. But I saw who the organizers were so I was skeptical but always willing to approach new experiences with an open mind. So, I joined. Things have been getting most interesting - to say the least. And this has been only since Oct 25th.
So, the first thing the new organizers did, was completely change the focus and direction of the cuddle group and just made it like the other two. Here is their first communication to the group.
Keep in mind that the group is called "Cuddle parties and beyond". With this gruesome threesome, we have gone "beyond" to be certain.
We just wanted to introduce ourselves and give a quick "shout out" to everyone. There's a new Sheriff in town baby and we're taking the group in a completely different direction. The "Resurrection" is on boys and girls. So stay tuned for some major changes and some major fun. We're not your average organizers and we're not your average couple. We're all about ''thinking out of the box". For those of you who belong to one or both of our other two groups (Friends with benefits and the outrageous "The Exotic Erotic Sexual Fantasies and Lifestyles Meetup") know what we're talking about :-). Now we realized that all of you originally signed up for the group for different reasons and with a different agenda with the original organizers. So having said , we understand that the new direction that we're taking may not be for you. If that be the case, we understand if you decide to leave the group, but of course you're most welcome to stay.Now don't get us wrong there will be some aspects of the group that will be similar to the original concepts and objectives of the original organizers. Its just that we're going to be doing it a little differently and with a whole lot more flavor. so for those of you who'd like to bail, we understand. For those of you who'd like to stay all we can say is FASTEN YOUR SEAT BELTS! For those of you who do decide to stay , you're going to be reaping some "Benefits" right away. As mentioned earlier, We're the organizers of the other two groups. The First is "Friends With Benefits" in which we inherited about 183 members. This group was started by the same organizers and along the same lines as "cuddlers" but with a slightly different concept. They too will be under-going a major transformation and will be operated in unison with us (Friends Without Boundaries). So anyone that belong to either of the two groups will automatically have complete acces to the membership base of both groups and all of their meetup events and activities.
Now for those of you who'd really like to spice things up and try something completely wild and adventurous, there's "The Exotic Erotic Sexual Lifestyles and Fantasies Meetup Group". We're going to be giving preference for membership to members of both of the new groups that we just took over. Be warned though, this group puts the "E" in the word Erotic! There are some really, really super hot, open-minded, sexually charged, wild and crazy (in a good way lol) people in this group.If you go to the meetup page, it shows that we have about 36 members. About 20 open-minde couples and an assortment of about 16 guys and gals all of various sexual orientations for a total of about 66 people members. You guys should see some of the wild and sexy pics on their profiles lol. Anyway what the stats don't show is that there are about 150 people on a waiting list trying to get into the group. With respect to the nature of the group, we're obviosly being very selective about who we let join. However, as stated we're going to give our members of both groups (friends with benefits and friends without boundaries) FRONT OF THE LINE PRIVILEDGES. Any COUPLES and SINGLE FEMALES who belong to our two new groups WILL BE AUTOMATICALLY APPROVED UPON RECIEVING THEIR APPLICATION TO JOIN. Single males will also be given front of the line priviledges, but may have to go on a short wait list in an effort to keep the female to male ration balanced (in favor of the females)..But you will be put in front of everyone else that's waiting. The other good news is THAT ALL MEMBERS OF BOTH OF OUR TWO NEW GROUPS WILL BE GIVEN THE OPPORTUNITY TO ATTEND SOME OF IF NOT ALL OF THE EXOTIC EROTIC MEETUPS EVEN IF YOU'RE NOT A MEMBER YET. The first being an absolutely wild Halloween Party coming up next week. We'll keep you posted on that. This event will either be on the 28th, 29th, or the 30th of this month and trust us this will not be your average Halloween Party!!!
So take all of this in and we'll be in touch again soon to keep everyone updated on everything. Once again we're really happy to be the New Organizers of the group and we're here to make the group the best that it can possibly be for you. If you have any questions or concerns, please do not hesitate to contact us. By the way, we're also looking for assistant organizers for all of the groups . So if you like to help out please let us know. There are some really nice perks and 'benefits" for the assistants :-). One last thing, for those of you who'd like to join the Exotic group, be sure to mention that you''re a member of our other two groups. Other wise we'd have no way of knowing and you'd just be placed at the end of the wait list with everyone else. Take care everyone and enjoy the rest of the week
Again, looking to fullfill their needs with little or no regard for what the membership wants or needs. So, some of us that joined a cuddle group, have voiced some concerns and confusion as to the change in direction. I mean, if I wanted to join the "exotic" group, I would have.
So, they planned their first group outting for Oct 29 at a Swinger's Club. Wouldn't you know it, not one female from the group is willing to go alone. So, one of the members mentioned that and here is the response that was posted the next day.
Yes Paul you're absolutely right. There isn't ONE single female signed up for the event, there' s (at the time of this email) over 52 couples (which strangely includes females) and about 22 all female couples (that would certainly be a needed necessity for the "all girl" play room and over 100 SINGLE FEMALES who'll be out on their own. So yes Paul you were right there will be a field day to be had and looks like you won't be apart of it :-). You obviously were well informed on the fact that there will be several other groups and guests from other clubs joining us which was clearly stated in the details that were sent out. So thanks Paul for keeping us updated and we're terribly sorry that you won't be coming out to play. We understand that you just might be more comfortable staying home in familiar surroundings and playing with yourself.. Your accurate input and opinion is always appreciated and seeing that you're so well informed, we look forward to your future updates ..xxx tootles ...Victoria
You should be advised of the following facts, give you a broader picture, because these folks must work in marketing or advertising, for they truly understand the expression, "It's all in how you sell it":
For example, she talks about how there are 168 members from one group and blah blah another group has this many....Well, in fact, the vast majority of said members are inert. Checking the members pages of these groups, well over 70% have not logged into the site in over three months or more. So, in fact, there are only about a dozen active members.
Then the claim about the "hotness" factor of the members of the core group, the wild and crazy swingers, well, when one checks the profiles of said members, it's almost always either a pic of the guy, mostly naked and either no face pics or just body pics of the women. Hhhmm, curious.
As to her rebuttal to Paul's concerns, well just off the top of my head, I found it hysterical where she talks about 22 all female couples. Well, great (if only it were true) but how does that reassure Paul that he might have one hope in hell of scoring? The event costs $30 (they claim they negotiated this price with the owner, horsepuckies, that's the price listed on the clubs website) so Paul wanted some reassurance that he might have a familiar lady or two with which to hope to score with or something during the course of the evening. Otherwise, what difference is this club from any other where the socially challenged are too intimidated to attend? Instead he got that reply and booted out because at the time of the writing of this entry, he was no longer a member. Some class and tact would have made her so much more appealing. Now that reply is up for every member of the group to see. You just can't teach some people class.
Personally I am keeping my membership in both the FWB group and this new and not-so-improved-cuddle group because this is just too funny to leave, and I don't have cable T.V. I need to get my soap opera fix somewhere. ;)
